Changing in Relationships
A
compelling and coherent way of life is formed in authentic communities. In other words, it is in a relationship with
others that our beliefs take on a lived
quality. We can only show
unquenchable grace to someone who has messed up and does not deserve grace. Forgiveness can only be extended or received when
someone has been wronged. Hospitality is
practiced to others. In relational
community we love, serve and live in harmony with one another.
I have
dozens of relationships – with my wife, my children, co-workers, church
community, neighbors and extended family.
Sometimes in this community of people I’m encouraged, at other times I’m
challenged. Sometimes I’m frustrated and I also frustrate. Often I blow it.
A few
Sundays ago we were on the way to meet with the church. I was upset that morning. Diana was upset that I was upset. We drove in silence except for the occasional
short one sentence remark. Instead of
going to the service we dropped the girls off at the door and headed out to the
parking lot of a local gift store. There
we spent a couple of hours talking. It
was tense at times. We uncovered some
pretty unflattering things about ourselves.
It seems that
our interior selves frequently surface in the outworking of our relationship.
It is there we often see the need to change.
This does
not mean we need to try harder to live up to a set of ideals. God does not assign us this heavy burden. He doesn’t say if we work hard enough, are
creative enough, confident enough, disciplined enough, organized enough, good
enough we will measure up.
Instead Christ
makes Himself available in a transformational companionship. Firmly establishing love, joy, patience and
kindness in our inner being. He uses the
rub of relationships to reveal our need, to give us Himself, and change us from
the inside out.