Clearing Two: Trustful Dependence
After
graduating from a small Bible college in the Appalachians, Diana and I were
married. Our intentions were to be
missionaries in South Africa, but that plan was preempted by an offer to become
a staff member at Diana’s home church. I
really enjoyed those twelve years as a youth pastor. Life was good on many fronts.
If
you were on the outside looking in during those years, you probably would think
we had a good marriage too. After all we
were doing all the “right” things - living on a strict budget, serving in
ministry together, having a regular date night and trying to meet each other’s
“felt” needs. Truth is that in time
struggles came, and we often felt like failures.
Marriage
revealed that we were selfish. Parenting
showed the extent of our selfishness. I
was often frustrated in those days and responded in anger more often than I
care to recount. The feeling of failure
increased.
One
evening while showering I was overwhelmed after having blown it once
again. I couldn’t seem to get it right
and cried out in desperation. “I just can’t
do it. I can’t live the Christian
life.” In the solitude of that shower there
came a quiet reminder of something that had slipped. “You can if you let Me live my life through you.”
A
few months prior I had faced an incident that left me distressed. A Christian friend, who himself was
recovering from brain surgery, took notice and asked if we could meet for
coffee. He gave words of encouragement
and suggested I read a book that had been meaningful in his life.
While
reading the book it soon became apparent that my life was not a trustful
dependence upon God. This was painfully true in the one area I felt good about
– my ministry. It was not marked by the
language of prayer. I had exchanged the
sacred care of souls for running the church.
Ministry was more about what I was doing
for Him rather than what He was doing in
and through us.
While
this brought an initial convicting sting, it became a refreshing time. The pressure was off to get it “right” by my
best efforts. Our marriage began to grow
into the kindred-spirit companionship we both desired. Ministry became more prayerful.
I
discovered that there is a spaciousness and vastness in relationship with the
Spirit of God; that life in Christ is whole and freeing. I discovered too that trustful dependence in
God is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living.
1 Comments:
At Thursday, September 05, 2013 8:48:00 AM, Don Smith said…
Good Word
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